barusan baca buku ini, yang ngarang seorang ce yang lagi pacaran sm seorang indonesian phd student di nus. nvm buat orang2 yang udah tahu. keren deh. aku baru tau ternyata ***** itu orangnya kayak gitu, ada kemiripan sm aku deh heheh meski aku keliatannya lebih cool, well…punya masa lalu yang rada2 serupa, meski aku gak perna nembak co =P buku yang jujur buanget, i would say that it’s a brutally honest book. totally recommended for any anak muda indo anywhere (esp. ce sih soalnya gak ada sharing co jomblo di dlmnya). bukunya lumayan membangun dan gak berkesan menggurui. diingetin lagi beberapa hal.
1. to keep my heart for the “knight” to come, if the knight really comes.
2. to assume there’s nothing happening until a guy really expresses his interest. pura-pura “bodo” kayak gini sebenernya susah sih. cuman i think it’s necessary. i’m honestly the type of person yang kalopun gak jadi sm seseorang yah gpp lah…kan masih bisa temenan, dan kayaknya gak bkl sakit2 amet. udah kebal =P but still, i should not be overconfident.
3. not to be dependent on any guy friends.
4. jadi mikir2 lagi, kenapa orang2 di sekitarku yang keliatan harusnya uda memenuhi semua syarat untuk menikah malah belum ada pacar. sedangkan yang kayaknya masih struggling malah ada pacar. jadi mikir2…jangan2 “siap”nya manusia itu nggak kayak “siap”nya Tuhan.
5. to be careful with guys’ heart, to reject clearly unwanted fans more courteously. if a girl like me can have bitterness due to one-sided love, so can guys.
6. to be patient and stay still before the Lord.
bukunya banyak kemiripan sm kedua buku Joshua Harris benernya cuman lebih dikemas secara indo aja. bahasanya lmyn “jakartanized” also. but it’s okay =P
for guys’ insights…
girls want to be pursued, woo-ed, and loved just as how Jesus Christ has won our affection by going after us, dying for us, saving us, firstly loving all of us. my own insight: preferably in a way that respects her as a subject, not as some mere object of admiration (I’ve been so often the latter and u won’t believe how dishonoring it is for the girl =P some girls unbelievably love being objects of lust, but I think it’s really really bad and humiliating if guys do that to you, so please be careful). if a guy cannot even ask a girl to be his girlfriend, then just forget the idea that he really loves her. okay, this is from the book.
